Among the top contenders of problems causing divorce are money and sex, they are of an unbelievably high degree of importance in a marriage. Many will say “love does it all” but whereas love is a key factor, money and sex are agents that if not given the needed attention, can destroy the love you share.
I am not saying you have to be a millionaire or the world’s greatest lover, but when each person has a job or profession and raising some form of income then it will go a lot further than if the burden of the bills, household and personal necessities fall on the back of just one spouse. At times however, it is the decision of the couple for one to stay home, probably to take care of the kids, and the other work, that is different, that decision is a consensus.
It is surprising to note how an argument can occur because of lack of money to buy grocery or pay bills. Uncomfortable living conditions spurs arguments and arguments may cause couples to decide to communicate less which leads to broken marriage.
Sex; exciting, pleasurable, yet too much or too little of it in a marriage may lead to problems between the couple. Many times one partner will for some reason, want to withhold sex, probably as a means of getting back or punishing the other. In my opinion, withholding sex is just as bad or may be even worse than terrible sex. Your partner will feel cheated, and may resort to alternatives which can destroy a marriage.
Too much sex on the other hand can do the same damage. When two persons decide to get married, the topic of sex must be on your list of important conversations, where you discuss your likes and dislikes and yes, the frequency. This does not say that the range you agreed on initially has to remain the same throughout your life, what it does is it gives an idea of your partner’s comfort level.
When one begins to move out of this comfort zone and the other is not willing to do the same, then he/she may start to feel pressured and a conflict will arise. If such a conflict is left unresolved, it can cause a broken marriage.
Marriage is a beautiful thing, and the rate of divorce in our society today has been on the rise, unfortunately many persons are turned off due to this. The next time, you and your special person are having “the talk” make sure that money and sex are two of your hot topics for discussion. If you are already married, then it is never too late to visit these topics in your next alone time.
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In the MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP, COMMUNICATION may be termed SURVIVAL.
It is NOT OPTIONAL but VITAL.
It is the life stream, the nerve, the HEART BEAT!
Where it is LACKING, the marriage relationship DETERIORATES and DIES.
Where it is HEALTHY, the marriage relationship FLOURISHES, and the 2-become-1!
-Wayne A. Mack,Strengthening Your Marriage: Unit 4-Good Communication, p.73
I totally agree with what you have said. Communication is absolutely vital for relationships to survive. Please feel free to send in more comments or ideas.
Marriage is a life-long friendship – and the sooner the couple realize this fact they will ride over every challenge that may come their way after the glamour of the wedding celebrations.
also that this life-long relationship is God’s idea of properly perpetuating humanity. One generation shall praise His works to another.
What people dont realize is that love alone cannot hold a marriage or relationship together. It takes a whole lot of dedication and compromising. And dont add in there a lack of sex or money, it just worsens it.
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Entering into marriage is entering into life long friendship until death of either husband or wife. As long as the couple does not understand this fundamental truth, the couple will not be able to bear with whatever problems may arise in their married life.
The couple must know that they know beyond the shadow of a doubt that they will not be living just for each other but for the next generation that will come from their physical and emotional union. Children are the main result of a loving marriage. A marriage is therefore not just a life-long friendship between a man and a woman, it is God’s idea of perpetuating humanity.